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Trust

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” ~ Corrie Ten Boom

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Trust in God, the Universe, Universal Intelligence or whatever you call it.  There is an invisible, but knowing, extraordinary love and intelligence that always has our back and that we can always trust.  Although we can not see It, It is within us, and around us at all times. Trusting It above anyone and anything else will keep you on your right path or get you there. Sometimes trusting in It is hard.  You may feel that what is seen in this world is all there is and that no one could possibly understand your struggles.  It knows all of your struggles and concerns.  If we can trust that It has our back, then pray, let it go, and believe.  When the time is right, know that trusting It was our wisest choice.

Trust yourself.  Trust your intuition and do not second guess yourself.  Our intuition is like a soul compass.  Intuition is what correctly guides us through this life; trust it!  God gave us free will, therefore, trust in yourself.  If you do not trust yourself, no one else will.  Trust that you, as we all are, are here for a special reason and that there is only one you…so trust yourself and be yourself.

What does it mean to trust?  To me, trust means being able to be your complete self with someone and know that you are safe with them.  Trust means being able to talk to someone and know that your words are kept confidential with them.  Trust means that you do not have to wonder what your significant other is doing because you know there is no need to wonder.  Trust is giving that special part of yourself (your heart) to someone and knowing that it will be valued, respected, and held in the highest regard.

Can you truly, completely trust once it has been broken?  Below are a few quotes to consider:

“Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me.”
“Trust is like a piece of paper.  Once it’s crumbled, it can never be perfect again.”
“Trust is like an eraser, it gets smaller and smaller after every mistake.”

I attended a talk with author David Kessler.  He and Louise Hay wrote the book You Can Heal Your HEART.  Below, I share several suggestions that he gave at his talk to heal from broken trust:

1.   Find your power
2.   Release the role of victim (this one can be really hard)
3.   O
wn your reality and life
4.   Feel your feelings
5.   Allow old wounds to come up for healing
6.   Talk with someone about possible distorted thinking in relationships, love, and life
7.   Practice positive affirmations to uplift yourself

Kessler reminds us that if someone betrays you, it’s never about you, it is about the one who betrayed you, whether it be a deep seated wound, low self-esteem, or whatever they are dealing with. If someone wants you to give them the chance to rebuild trust, they have to agree that they lost their right to privacy.  There must be transparency if there is a chance.  Also, reassurance and information is needed to rebuild trust.  The quote “actions speak louder than words” absolutely applies in this situation.  Who you are is beyond anyone’s betrayal.  Kessler and Hay suggest to help heal, write three major lessons learned when your trust was broken.  If you feel that you can not trust the person after doing your work, write a letter of completion and say goodbye.  “Pain is part of life, but suffering is optional.” ~ David Kessler.  

What does trust mean to you?  Can you trust after it has been broken? If so, how did you learn to trust again?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)

“Trust is like a mirror…once its broken, you can never look at it the same again. ” ~unknown

“Self-Trust is the first secret to success.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson