“Everything you want is on the other side of FEAR.” ~ Jack Canfield
FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real
It is said that there are only two true emotions that guide our lives, fear or love; every other emotion can be found in one of these two. Fear can creep up in just about anything: when you are trying to be your true self, fear of your health, job, family, being alone, failure, or the issues in the world, just to name some of the fears that enter our mind. A lot of the news is based on fear, therefore, I do not watch it often.
If you are trying to make any decision, ask yourself if it’s coming from fear or love. Fear stops people from living the lives they aspire to live. In the past, my fear was worrying about what others thought of me. Fear tried deterring me when starting this website, but I didn’t let it get the best of me. I decided I wanted to help inspire people more than letting the fear take over to keep me from ever trying.
Some may fear truly living while others fear dying. Many parents fear the death of their child; this I can relate to. My daughter, who was two-and-a-half- years-old was diagnosed with leukemia and my first question was “Is she going to die?” Fear immediately took over, but I was able to let it go over time with lots of prayers and faith. The word cancer was seldom, if ever, used in our home. We stayed positive and tried keeping her life as normal as possible, only focusing on the good-as much as possible. There were days when this was harder to do, but this was the best way to get us through the years of her treatment. Our family could have chosen to live in fear for her life everyday for over two years and seven months while she was going through her chemotherapy treatments, but we chose to just love her and appreciate everyday with her. I am infinitely grateful that my amazingly courageous, beautiful daughter is now healthy and years into remission (she told me it was okay to talk about her diagnosis so that it might help others). Sadly, we all know of families or friends whose child or children have passed. There are no words to make their pain dissipate; maybe just being with them, praying for and with them, and letting them know you are there to support them helps. These immensely strong and incredible parents chose love. Some have started foundations or organizations in memory of their beautiful children to help others.
I attended a talk with Anita Moorjani, author of Dying to be Me and she spoke about her life battling cancer and her near death experience. She reminds us that “life is meant to be lead fearlessly and that fear doesn’t keep us safe, love keeps us safe.” Fear can take over our lives leaving us feeling stuck, but it truly is our choice to live in love or fear. What will you choose for your life, Love or Fear? Remember when making any decision, ask yourself if it’s coming from fear or love. Choose Love over Fear.
“Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.” ~ Mark Twain
“If a fear cannot be articulated, it can’t be conquered.” ~ Stephen King
“Don’t let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen.” ~ unknown